It's OK To Be Angry If Someone Mugs You, Part II
Published on December 1, 2011 by Sara Foss

This charming story about a mugging victim who offered to give his mugger his coat and bought him dinner has been making the rounds.

People react to being mugged in a variety of ways. For instance, when I was mugged, I became very calm. The friend who was with me became tearful and panicked. You just never know how you'll respond to having a gun pointed at your head until it actually happens, or how you'll feel about it days, weeks, months, or even years later.

Perhaps this is why the headline attached to the charming story - "A Victim Treats His Mugger Right" - irritates me so much. After I was mugged, I decided to call the police and file a report. Is that the wrong way to treat a violent criminal who holds a gun to your head and steals your wallet? No, it is not. Now, if someone feels like being magnanimous and buying their mugger dinner, I won't stop them. To each his own. But other courses of action are perfectly appropriate, and I don't ever think, "Oh, maybe I should have been more like Jesus, and taken that guy to the Waffle House for pancakes and some simple human charity." Of course, the idea of spending any time alone with my mugger would have scared me half to death. Perhaps because he accosted me on a dark street, forced me to lie down on a lawn and held a gun to my head!

On Facebook, people seem charmed by the charming story. And it is charming. But every time I see a positive comment about the story, I wonder if the person making it has ever been mugged. In my opinion, only people who have been mugged have any real sense of what the "right" reaction is, and they know better than anyone that you have very little control over how you react to something like that. Until I was mugged, I had no idea how I would react to something like that. And if I'm ever mugged again, I have no idea whether I would react the same way. I really don't.

Click here for my previous thoughts on this topic, about how it's OK to be angry if someone mugs you.



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