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Published on February 20, 2012 by Sara Foss

In my weekly column over at the DG, I write about the challenges and joys of making new friends. This is something I have to keep doing, because my friends keep moving away. In fact, I've finally concluded that I'm attracted to the sort of people who are more likely to move.

Anyway, here's an excerpt:

"My biggest complaint about the Capital Region is that people seem to come and go so quickly.

After I moved here, I worked hard to make friends. And when you’re an introvert, making friends poses a bit of a challenge.

But I’m actually pretty decent at it, having gone to camp as a child, moved once as a child, attended college in Ohio and spent the fi rst three years of my professional life working in Alabama. At all of these stops, I made friends quickly and easily, and often with people I didn’t expect. In fact, I would say that’s been one of life’s biggest lessons: to keep an open mind about the Friend Potential (FP) of the people I encounter.

For instance, I wasn’t sure how I felt about my college roommate when I met her. She was a gregarious extrovert from South Dakota, while I was a reserved New Englander. I assumed we would learn to coexist, but doubted we would ever be close — we were too different. But I soon learned that having an extroverted roommate was useful, because extroverts attract people. And we had more in common than I initially thought: similar values, tastes in music, senses of humor, etc.

But if there was a lesson to be learned, I didn’t learn it."

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