Officiating: It Gets Easier
Published on September 15, 2013 by Sara Foss

Over at the DG, I write about officiating my third wedding.

Here's an excerpt:

"When Washington state legalized same-sex marriage, my best friend from high school, Beka, and her partner of 15 years, Laurie, immediately got engaged.

'I can marry people,' I told Beka, because I suspected this information might suddenly be of interest. 'I’ve been ordained online.'

A couple of months later, Beka asked me to officiate at her wedding, and I said yes.

I love weddings, and I especially love to be involved in them. I’ve been a flower girl, a reader, a maid of honor and officiant. I’m by no means an expert on weddings, but over the years I’ve learned a fair amount about how they’re supposed to work and what makes a wedding satisfying. And I’m finding that officiating gets easier the more you do it.

The first wedding I officiated, for my friends Heather and Davi, was a huge challenge that involved trying (and mostly failing) to get headstrong people to do what I said.

During the rehearsal, I worried that the ceremony would be a total failure — that nobody would be able to hear me over the nearby traffic, that the groomsmen would do something crazy, that my notes would blow away. But the service went extremely well, mainly because everybody kept their mouths shut, listened to me and waited for my cues. This is when I learned that even the most difficult people tend to be respectful and polite (and silent!) during weddings.

I also officiated my sister’s wedding, and it also went quite well. I had learned from my previous officiating experience. I’d gotten better at bossing people around, and I understood that wedding parties, much like children, need guidance and structure."

Click here to read the whole thing.

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