That Feeling Should Have a Name
Published on November 14, 2012 by Sara Foss

On my recent trip to Denver, I managed to meet up with a friend I hadn't seen since I graduated from college 14 years ago. Which is a long time, but it didn't seem that long until I really thought about it. Until I thought, "When was the last time I saw Abby?" and realized it was over a decade ago.

Anyway, it was a nice little visit, involving me, my friends Dave and Melissa, who also know Abby from college, and Abby's husband. As always, I was struck by how easy it can be to reconnect with old friends, and returned home thinking that if Abby and her husband lived in Albany, we would probably hang out all the time. (There's no question that if Dave and Melissa lived in Albany, we would hang out all the time.)

Abby had a similar reaction to our reunion, and in any email later that week, she wrote, "It was like I had seen you all yesterday. I don't know if that feeling has a name, but it should." Abby's right: That feeling should have a name. Maybe it does, but I don't know it. If anyone has any suggestions, thoughts or answers, please let me know. Because it's a great feeling, and I wish I could experience it more often.

I've always believed that you do reconnect with the people you care about. Though I doubt there's research to back up this theory - I suspect it's something I tell myself to feel better, since my network of friends is rather farflung, even though it has no scientific basis. I've always drawn on this Richard Bach quote for hope: "Don't be dismayed by goodbyes. A farewell is necessary before you can meet again. And meeting again, after moments or lifetimes, is certain for those who are friends."

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